busy busy busy

It feels like I've been working a lot but in reality I'm just working full time.  I am looking forward to 3 days off starting sunday.
This past week has been relatively calm in comparison to the last couple weeks of drama.  I know it won't last but I'm trying not to stress too much.  I have to find a lawyer for if and when we may go to court.  All I asked him to do back in June was file for a parenting plan and now he wants to take me for custody. (he wants 6 mos / 6 mos, which will NOT happen)  I'm sure he's all talk (I mean really, he doesn't have a full time job so how is he going to afford to take me to court?) and trying to threaten me.  I meant what I said and I said what I meant, an elephant is loyal 100%.  I'm not backing down.  Sure, I can give in and say yes to his every whim.  Make everything in his life convenient, who's there to help me out?  Sure, I can drive 4 hours every other saturday and sunday, to take the kids for a visit.  I wouldn't get home until about 2am monday morning then have to go to work, but who cares about that?  He certainly doesn't.  He doesn't ever consider these things.  All I want is for HIM to meet me half way.  I want HIM to pick up his children, take them to HIS house where they have a bedroom and can spend time with their father.  I am so sick of the run around, excuses and drama.  The last thing I said to him about this was - "Look, I'm not going to argue anymore.  I agreed to visitation without a parenting plan.  You didn't take it seriously, cancelling and rescheduling continuously.  If you are serious about visitation with the kids and wanting to be in their life then show it.  Follow through with getting a parenting plan or whatever it is you need to do license / car, a real job and a suitable place for them to stay with you.  It's time you grow up and be responsible for yourself.  That's all I have to say."
It is inevitable that we will end up getting an official parenting plan at some point in the next 18 years.  I just want to get it all done and over with now while the babies are still young.  That way they don't have to see this fight.